Actually I'm for it but I'm mostly against it at the same because I think America is still too immature to handle gay marriage. Why? Gay people tend to have lower life spans and mental problems. Some would probably say that's just God punishing them but I believe it's most likely the people who thinks homosexuals is gross and immoral abusing them maliciously to the point where they would have these problems. I'm for it but... there's just too many negative and ignorant people out there.
Yeah, alot of research shows the Gay lifestyle is not something that should be encouraged as it leads to mental disorder, a much shorter life expectancy and other problems. I believe it, despite people saying Homosexuality is accepted I still see them being treated like sh*t in society some including their own family. Hell I remember when my stepfather told me "If you become gay I'll kill you" years ago and even though he was in a joking mood I could tell he was being serious by his change in tone
But you know, it doesn't matter if it should be encouraged or not, it's not something you can exactly change about yourself. Hide it perhaps, from society.
I do agree that you increase your chances of becoming an enemy of society by 'coming out'. Most of my family are ridiculously homophobic, but I don't see how being straight or gay will affect your chances of being mentally ill. It isn't as if being homosexul in and of itself is a mental disorder.
Severe stress, severe depression, and constant abuse can lead to mental illness. Which alot of homosexuals go through everyday. Look at Gaara for example, he was treated like dirt most of his life and what happened? He became a crazy murderer who thought of his bijuu as his "mom" and killing to feed "her". The worst torture you can ever give a human being is to deny them love and acceptance. Love is just like water without it we slowly but surely die. So is same sex marriage really worth the abuse?
I know plenty about abuse, and I'll leave that at that.
Denying them the right that, if they so choose, they CAN get married, is just as intolerable as abusing them if they DO decide to. Imagine if women in general had taken this approach to obtaining the right to vote, a 'no, they might not like it' approach. Or if African-Americans had, 'no, they won't like it if we try to be equal, they might abuse us', then no one would have ever accomplished anything.
Fear of doing something is the sworn enemy of progress. And being homosexual or heterosexual is just as much a part of someone's identity as being female or male or being black or white or any other race.