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Post by Nina_Lumos on May 8, 2009 20:49:34 GMT 12
Paul's paternal grandfather just died this week. He's in a very sore mood, seeing as he spent the entire week trying to contact his family abroad but couldn't...
We're going to the wake tomorrow in Batanes; this is probably the first time I'm going to see his father's side of the family. I don't know what to tell him in this situation. Someone please help me.
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Post by Midnightmoon602 on May 9, 2009 2:05:33 GMT 12
Maybe you should try not to meantion it at first or maybe say condelense. try to bring Paul's grandfather death slowly. don't bring it up fast. give it time and he will be fine soon. ^^
I hope this helps. im not that good giving out advice but i do hope that games you nina
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Post by MagmarFire on May 9, 2009 7:47:38 GMT 12
Hmm, touchy situation... But I suppose Midnight's advice is good enough. Try to comfort him about it, but don't keep bringing it up and reminding him.
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Post by narutoninja44 on May 9, 2009 11:33:29 GMT 12
Yeah, just comfort him, and dont get all up in his face or yell at him (though you dont seem like you do anyway) and when he's ready to talk, he will.
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Post by LuciferIX on May 9, 2009 18:29:51 GMT 12
I don 't think that I need to add much more to what the others have already said, but give my condolences to Paul. A grandparent is never an easy person to lose.
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Post by Praetor on May 9, 2009 20:19:32 GMT 12
^ Same here. Poor Paul; I feel sorry for the guy.
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Post by Nina_Lumos on May 10, 2009 4:06:18 GMT 12
We came home much earlier, but I couldn't get to post.
It was worse than I thought. He was completely silent throughout the whole procession, and didn't even say hi to his relatives (he only introduced me to them after the mass). According to his cousin, who I quickly befriended, he's always like this at funerals of family members. He just couldn't manage the expression of crying.
Just goes to show that even though Paul and I have known each other for more than 8 years, I still didn't know much about him...
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Post by Nina_Lumos on May 11, 2009 1:41:05 GMT 12
He wouldn't even eat his meals (breakfast, lunch and dinner), even when I cooked his favorite meals (tocino [sweetened pork, in case anyone doesn't know], cheesedogs and fried chicken). Now I know that he's hiding his grief.
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Post by XAOTL on May 11, 2009 5:38:59 GMT 12
Don't worry it's just the way he's getting a grip. It was the same for me.
What he needs is some space for him to figure things out, but if he does come over to you just give him a slight nudge to tell him that you're there for him, he may not open up but just knowing that you're there will be a big help. At the end of it the feelings of sadness will still be there, but that is somehting that can't be helped. Just give him some room to grive in his own way and be there whenever he comes to you.
My condolences to the family.
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Post by Midnightmoon602 on May 12, 2009 0:01:41 GMT 12
He wouldn't even eat his meals (breakfast, lunch and dinner), even when I cooked his favorite meals (tocino [sweetened pork, in case anyone doesn't know], cheesedogs and fried chicken). Now I know that he's hiding his grief. tocino! i love tocino! okay that was off topic. ^^" But that is what happens when a person dies. i mean they are out of your life for good. they are never coming back. he will be fine. that is how people act when somebody dies. but i dunno if this is true or not but if this gose too long he might suffer depresson. i don't know if that is what causes it though. im not a smart person sadly. T_T
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