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Post by cascade88 on Jun 27, 2008 4:25:25 GMT 12
It is all about honesty, after all. You can't expect to be together with someone who can't be truthful to you, right? Yeah, that's true. And not only in the practical sense, but also in the case of if you're lying by trying to be and/or act like someone you're not just to impress the other person, or to make them like you more. I've never actually done that, but I have to imagine it wouldn't go over very well in the end. And besides, you wouldn't want someone to want you because you're their perfect ideal of a partner, you want someone to want you because of who you are already, no modifications needed. Modifications? Eh, why not.
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Post by Nina_Lumos on Jun 27, 2008 11:32:05 GMT 12
That's what happened in the comic's story where the moral was featured. There were two girls, best of friends but have different views on starting relationships. Girl A keeps pretending to be what she isn't, just to win the heart of the person she wanted to impress. Girl A thinks that love is just a game, which is, of course, absurd, and in the end, Girl B, the one being honest to herself, was the one who attracted the guy in the end.
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Post by thedarkfiddler on Jul 20, 2008 9:51:36 GMT 12
Anyone that remembers, I kept back from telling this girl how I felt until after summer vacation. Well, I have an update.
My dad, my brother, and I went to a fair a few days ago, and I saw the girl there. I'm pretty sure I still have feelings for her, because I went through the whole "Oh, I don't wanna sound stupid, but I don't wanna sound like I care" thing. The, I went and won 3 leis to give., which I ended up taking home... Oh well.
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Post by cascade88 on Jul 20, 2008 9:55:45 GMT 12
I know it's not easy telling someone you like that you like them, but why don't you just try to tell her anyway? I mean, she might like you back. There's no guarantee she would, but there's also no guarantee that she wouldn't, either.
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Post by thedarkfiddler on Jul 20, 2008 10:25:43 GMT 12
Well, that was the first time I had seen her since the school year ended, and I doubt I will see her again until it starts again, in more than a month. As for why I didn't tell her before, I was afraid it would pass and then I'd either be dating someone I don't like anymore, or I'd upset her when I told her that (Or she might take it fine, but her mom IS a teacher)
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Post by Nina_Lumos on Jul 20, 2008 16:54:07 GMT 12
You have to have the courage to face whatever stands in your way of your feelings. Cascade is right, it's hard telling someone you like how you feel; in fact, it's hard to tell anyone else but yourself about your own feelings.
In other words, if you love the girl, be prepared for any challenges that will come in the way. It's a long and hard road, don't expect any easy way or shortcuts to relationships.
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Post by mr0mew on Jul 30, 2008 9:37:31 GMT 12
I suddenly feel lonely for no reason now. As for my 'love life', I'm more of a 'waiter'. I try not to rush into things, and make friends with the guy first, and when we're at that kinda stage (if you get what I mean, sorry, I can't rephrase it better),....I don't know really what happens, but it always feels like there's a hand pushing against my chest, holding me back, and I try to over come it, but it's always too late. As a consequence the guy either gets a girlfriend, or something happens between us, or he moves away or something. It's kinda more complicated, but at the moment it feels like these lyrics: It's buried deep within the past, and I hope it doesn't last (It's something I already chase, I already chase) I try to give it all away, but it's never gonna fade (It's something I don't wanna face, I don't wanna face) I know you feel it's all the same, but I promise that I'll change (It's something I already chase, I already chase) You know I'm trying to believe that you're never gonna leave (It's something I don't wanna face, I don't wanna face) There's nothing left! The fear is gone...
And when my heartstrings come undone I will wait for you, pray for you Before I make my final run I will stay with you, decay with you
I know I'm not the perfect one, and this pain has just begun (It's something I already chase, I already chase) You bring me to a better path, and it's everything I lack (It's something I don't wanna face, I don't wanna face) There's nothing left! The fear is gone. There's nothing left! The fear is gone...
And when my heartstrings come undone I will wait for you, pray for you Before I make my final run I will stay with you, decay with you
If you fade out without me, Will you know all about me? If you fade out without me, Will you know all?
And when my heartstrings come undone I will wait for you, pray for you Before I make my final run I will stay with you, decay with you [x2]Or these ones: lyricwiki.org/A_Fine_Frenzy:Almost_LoverSorry if my problem seems rather pathetic.
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Post by thedarkfiddler on Jul 30, 2008 12:53:39 GMT 12
Don't worry, you'll get over that eventually (Syas the guys who has a similar problem)
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Post by Vurtax on Jul 31, 2008 6:16:30 GMT 12
I never believed in destiny even if events are similar to a book or song, so i don't think a song is a very supportive part of this whole "love life" here's what i say, be yourself, but be cool. Be respective, but be fun. I think that's the best advice for anyone, and it doesn't help to be syy either, (that's always been my biggest problem)
But as for me I'm going out with a good looking gal with a great personality around the 8th of august and her older brother and his girlfriend are coming with, right now we'll be going out as friends but i hope it grows.
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Post by tyrannosaurusalan on Jul 31, 2008 11:45:05 GMT 12
Because I'm in a cyber school, I don't have any friends let alone a girlfriend, and I want to change that, I have a Myspace, and Facebook but that's not going to help because I can't change to a public status on Myspace till I'm 16, and you have to be a friend of me to look at my profile on Facebook. I have no clue what else to do, I don't even know if I'm ready for a relationship yet, thanks alot cyber school for isolating me from the public and almost destroying my social life.
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Post by Praetor on Jul 31, 2008 20:09:41 GMT 12
Cyber school?
I've never heard of that before.
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Post by tyrannosaurusalan on Aug 1, 2008 0:19:34 GMT 12
Really?
The problem is, you almost never get to meet any of your classmates (in person), all you do is go on online sessions and get educated. Therefor I lack social confidence.
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Post by thedarkfiddler on Aug 1, 2008 2:17:48 GMT 12
O.O Yeah, but I'm not sure a real school would give you social confidence either... *Cowers in corner from memories* Okay, that's an exageration, but still
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Post by RobSp1derp1g on Mar 25, 2009 12:43:00 GMT 12
I know the thread is really old, but I have advice. if you guys are shy, I recommend using subliminal messages to destroy it I'm trying it and it works
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Post by Nina_Lumos on Apr 12, 2009 8:42:11 GMT 12
Any other member here (females of course) having trouble with their boyfriends? Mine's become really, er, what's the word? Perverted...
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